ugh. excuse the frustration -- but do people in the computing world still not know about relative and absolute paths?! this should seriously be a schooling requirement of some kind!

if you are going to the path: xml/WHATEVER.xml, then your flash file must be in a directory that has the sub-directory xml in it with the file WHATEVER.xml in that sub-directory. I opened your flash file and changed the first line of actionscript to:
Code:
var req: URLRequest = new URLRequest("http://astafeweb.net16.net/Bazaar%20Ceramics2/xml/menuDef.xml"); //Remove the "/" before the folder name for the splash page.
and it worked fine. imagine that. it loaded your menu text or whatever. I assume that's what it does, anyway.

it still has some errors, but they seem more related to the way you made this than anything.