I use to like to play "Aggravation" when I was young but I don't have the energy anymore.
Good one.
I did finally get curious enough to work backward from the phone number. $1.5M home, which Google Maps showed had a Lincoln Navigator, then a Mercedes sedan, and now a Lexus SUV out front.
My guess is that I might be a pawn in some rich widows' sport. What suggested that was an open post about getting together with her friends to laugh their asses off sharing "dating stories."
My father was dating a gal in Canada who had a very nice house and a very nice car. She had no money, though. She had to rent out several rooms in the house just to cover the payments. Poor money management can make you appear rich when you are not, or can make you appear poor when you are.
Well somebody must be making house payments, quite a bit on that note yet at an absurdly low rate of interest. The phone is "stealthed" and it took a little digging to get past the fake name associated. Everything seems to check out.
Amazing what you can find with some effort and paying a dollar to one or two web sites.
What difference does it really make at this point? It's not like you're trying to start a family, or some such. It's entertainment, and just like the Star Wars franchise, some of it is going to suck.
What difference does it really make at this point? It's not like you're trying to start a family, or some such. It's entertainment, and just like the Star Wars franchise, some of it is going to suck.
Excellent points, one after another. It's more like being on the field than watching from the stands though. Head injuries and all.
As a caveat, I suspect that "entertainment" tails off once you've agreed to swap contact info and give it to the children in case of hospitalization or death on one side or the other. That song wasn't meant to be taken casually.
To continue the analogy, it's a different ballgame when you're old.
I'm currently helping out my robust, but 88 year old, father and his less robust and slightly younger wife (not my mother, who died almost two decades back). It's an interesting relationship. He takes care of her, and she looks out for him. He might have a tendency to downplay or overlook potentially serious issues, so here watchfulness is useful.
I'm currently helping out my robust, but 88 year old, father and his less robust and slightly younger wife (not my mother, who died almost two decades back). It's an interesting relationship. He takes care of her, and she looks out for him. He might have a tendency to downplay or overlook potentially serious issues, so here watchfulness is useful.
I can certainly see the benefits of having a partner. I'm glad to hear it's working. To often they're one sided. If your living independently at 88 then you've beaten the odds. Good for them.
I can certainly see the benefits of having a partner. I'm glad to hear it's working. To often they're one sided. If your living independently at 88 then you've beaten the odds. Good for them.
I agree wholeheartedly.
Meanwhile, yep, another shoe dropped and another phone call. Not much change. Mostly what a great time she had going out to dinner and drinks with some group, and mentioned two of the guys there. Then odd questions about how publicly affectionate I am - I kid you not.
it feels like mind games, but it may just be a clumsy way of expressing frustration. Too connected to stay away, but struggling with the 800 mile gulf.
I can certainly see the benefits of having a partner. I'm glad to hear it's working. To often they're one sided. If your living independently at 88 then you've beaten the odds. Good for them.
Working, yes. Tenuous, also yes. Her capability seems to be declining at a faster rate than his does. Any time I get a call from my father, I'm expecting it to be a bad one. I get to deal with whatever happens, though. I know what would be easiest, but life does what life will do.
Another 3 hour phone call this evening. All very calm, normal, comfortable. I even got a "well, maybe" about the major point of contention. That's as close to an admission as I've heard so far. I'll wait to press for that apology though.
A lot of "real" discussion of old people's health issues in general. We're both now coming around to the idea that living solo at 70+ isn't going to be a safe thing for anybody. She even raised the dreaded "M word" in a joking way, something she'd recently backed away from as "unnecessary in today's world anyway."
A discussion of movies and TV produced an opening and I pressed for a touchy discussion. All we found was another area of high compatibility. And no, not that so get your minds out of the gutter!
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Good one.
