If you're using Report View for Listview control then you need to set few other properties to make visual work but in a nutshell all you need is to select ListItem.
Try sample below:
Code:
Option Explicit
Private Sub Form_Load()
With ListView1
.FullRowSelect = True
.HideSelection = False
.View = lvwReport
.ColumnHeaders.Add , , "Col 1"
.ColumnHeaders.Add , , "Col 2"
.ColumnHeaders.Add , , "Col 3"
Dim i As Integer
For i = 1 To 5
.ListItems.Add , , "Item " & i
Next i
End With
End Sub
Private Sub Command1_Click()
ListView1.ListItems(3).Selected = True
End Sub