The basic steps are the same, don't worry so much about how it is coded in my example:

1.) Create an interface.
2.) Implement that interface in your plugin (or your form in your case)
3.) In your main app, loop through all DLLs in a specific folder and if they implement your interface, add them to a list for use later.
4.) When you are ready, call the plugins method that is implemented in the interface.

Here is a quick example I threw together:

For the interface:
PROJECT1 - The other two projects need a reference to this project.
Code:
Public Interface TestInterface
    Sub DoWork(ByVal f As Form)
End Interface
In my class that implements the interface:
PROJECT2
Code:
Imports InterfaceTesting
Imports System.Windows.Forms
Public Class Class1
    Implements TestInterface


    Public Sub DoWork(ByVal f As Form) Implements InterfaceTesting.TestInterface.DoWork
        Dim myForm As New Form1
        myForm.MdiParent = f
        myForm.Show()
    End Sub
End Class
PROJECT3
In my program that loads the plugins:

Code:
Imports System.Reflection
Imports InterfaceTesting
Public Class Form1

    Dim Plugs As List(Of TestInterface)
    Private Sub Button1_Click(ByVal sender As System.Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles Button1.Click
        For Each p As TestInterface In Plugs
            p.DoWork(Me)
        Next
    End Sub

    Private Sub Form1_Load(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles Me.Load
        Me.IsMdiContainer = True
        Plugs = New List(Of TestInterface)

        Dim files() As String = IO.Directory.GetFiles(Application.StartupPath & "\Plugins", "*.dll")
        Dim assm As Assembly
        For Each f As String In files
            assm = Assembly.LoadFile(f)
            For Each t As Type In assm.GetTypes()
                If Not t.GetInterface("TestInterface") Is Nothing Then
                    Dim plugin As TestInterface = DirectCast(Activator.CreateInstance(t), TestInterface)
                    Plugs.Add(plugin)
                End If
            Next
        Next
    End Sub
End Class