Well the solution is simple, there are only a 2 main steps:
Find the Outlook window
When found, SendKeys to select the options, and click the "Yes" button.
The problem is that Outlook freezes your program while the window is showing, so the anser is to put all the code that closes the window, either in another application, or an ActiveX EXE (since it is in another thread).
You will find attached 2 projects, one is the ActiveX EXE, and the other is a regular application that is using Outlook.
First start the ActiveX EXE (KillOutlookMSG.vbp), and then start the UseOutlook.vbp. Make sure the references are still there !
UseOutlook.vbp has a reference to Outlook, and another to the ActiveX EXE KillOutlookMSG.vbp