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    Girls are grief !

    So I play games often with a lot of different people and as you do, you form friendships with people you've never met.

    I've been playing online games with this girl *audible groan from the audience* and she's always been fun and stuff like that. Nothing major. We game - we log off - real life takes over. Repeat the next time we are online together. It wasn't that complicated.

    WASN'T

    But it is now.

    * rolls eyes *

    She was acting all weird and stuff on the weekend and I asked her what the problem was. She gives me the "nothing's wrong - but if I told you, you'd freak." Silly me. I should have left it at that. Being a friend I encouraged her to get it off her chest and she did. It seems over the last 3 weeks she's developed an affection for me.

    She starts by saying she's been unhappy at home and when she's online with me (we chat and/or game for hours) she goes to bed feeling happy and good about herself. When I'm offline or gaming with other people she feels overly possesive and wished I'd just game with her (women eh). She gets disappointed when I'm offline for long periods.

    There's more but I'll spare you the mush.

    Thing is, she has a partner for 7 years and there is no way I want to be on the receiving end of his knuckles! I don't know what her long term plans are - I don't think she knows either. If she's looking for a way out of her relationship she can find another guy for that. We've met in real life once before (she's attractive - no pics ) and we live maybe 2 hours apart but I'm not interested. My life is already complicated.

    I like her a lot but right up until now she was just a gamer chick. It's also impossible to hear someone say all those things about you and not feel, and give, some of that affection back. I'm 99% sure all this will pass but our friendship is in that "weird" zone at the moment. I'm happy to be there but I'd like to keep it all in perspective.

    Damn it. She ruined everything.

    Next time someone says "If I tell you, you'll freak out." I'm going to say "Okay then - I gotta go!"

    I want it back the way it was - Timeshifter - wind back the clock please!
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    Re: Girls are grief !

    Next time someone says "If I tell you, you'll freak out", prep yourself for impending doom by consuming a vast quantity of alcohol. Then, when the news breaks, you can choose whether or not you wish to commit it to memory.

    Problem solved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gary Campbell
    I want it back the way it was - Timeshifter - wind back the clock please!
    I wish I could, man.. I'm chatting with my ex right now... a girl so perfect that she melted away six years of heartache in a mere two hours... and it never came back... in a period of time when I thought I'd be alone for the rest of my life... you have no idea how much I wish I could send everything back to before she came along and make the right choices... namely, screw the Army. It was that stupid choice that caused us to separate... incredibly painfully...

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    That's what you get when teaching your dog new tricks.

    Uhhh.....

    Ehrmmm.....

    Seriously. If you like her tell her to shush up and keep it a secret.

    If you don't like her tell her you are very rude and obnoxious and you still live in your parents house. Don't tell her you are lazy. Laziness is like a magnet to women.

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    I'd like to end the soppy stuff and be "just friends" without anyone get rejected. She's looking/found something that's just not on my agenda.
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    Re: Girls are grief !

    Quote Originally Posted by Gary Campbell
    I'd like to end the soppy stuff and be "just friends" without anyone get rejected. She's looking/found something that's just not on my agenda.
    Yeah burn her. Bury her to the ground.

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    It's the 7 years' fault.

    Break out from your mental box.
    I found better company. Iced chocolate with coffee jelly, anyone?

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    She could be a pig
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    Tell her that you're gay
    My monkey wearing the fedora points and laughs at you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Arrow_Raider
    Tell her that you're gay
    No, that'll just make it worse. I swear women have an inbuilt homosexual homing device.

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    Quote Originally Posted by Arrow_Raider
    Tell her that you're gay
    That's just an idea. What he needs is a plan. (notice the multiple steps)

    1. Knock her and her partner out some how (I'll let you brainstorm that one, I'm not one to micromanage )
    2. Take them both to her home (if that's not the place where you knocked them out)
    3. Nail all the windows shut
    4. Remove yourself from the residence
    5. Nail all the doors shut
    6. Set said residence ablaze
    7. Exit stage left (in a big ass hurry)

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    I always thought you were Ted Bundy reborn.

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    When I play online I use a female character.
    Maybe she is in actual fact a big hairy bummed builder from Tyneside who sent you a picture of his sister.

    If thats the case then you have nothing to worry about.

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    Good old I see you as a sister trick is the way to go. Hey, they have done it to us forever, how about some payback?
    Last edited by Xcoder : 09-10-2001 at 12:45 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Xcoder
    Good old I see you as a sister trick is the way to go.
    What if she is from Kentucky?
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    Quote Originally Posted by penagate
    No, that'll just make it worse. I swear women have an inbuilt homosexual homing device.
    How would you know that?
    Either you are yourself gay, or your missus fancies a gay bloke
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    Don't make a decision before you find out what she's got in her bank account.

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    A real man wouldn't care about that.

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    Quote Originally Posted by chocoloco
    A real man wouldn't care about that.
    No, but a smart man would. Times a'changin', old man!

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    Quote Originally Posted by mendhak
    No, but a smart man would. Times a'changin', old man!
    Ahh.. now I know why I saw "I wanna marry paris hilton" written on your forehead then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Valleysboy1978
    How would you know that?
    Either you are yourself gay, or your missus fancies a gay bloke
    Don't worry sunshine, no-one's doubting your masculinity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by penagate
    Don't worry sunshine, no-one's doubting your masculinity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by crptcblade
    What if she is from Kentucky?

    In that case you say, "Listen, Im gonna walk out that door and you will wait for me here, dont move until I come back".
    Last edited by Xcoder : 09-10-2001 at 12:45 AM.

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    Quote Originally Posted by Gary Campbell
    ...I don't know what her long term plans are - I don't think she knows either....
    Seems like that's a question you should ask her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gary Campbell
    So I play games often with a lot of different people and as you do, you form friendships with people you've never met.

    I've been playing online games with this girl *audible groan from the audience* and she's always been fun and stuff like that. Nothing major. We game - we log off - real life takes over. Repeat the next time we are online together. It wasn't that complicated.

    WASN'T

    But it is now.

    * rolls eyes *

    She was acting all weird and stuff on the weekend and I asked her what the problem was. She gives me the "nothing's wrong - but if I told you, you'd freak." Silly me. I should have left it at that. Being a friend I encouraged her to get it off her chest and she did. It seems over the last 3 weeks she's developed an affection for me.

    She starts by saying she's been unhappy at home and when she's online with me (we chat and/or game for hours) she goes to bed feeling happy and good about herself. When I'm offline or gaming with other people she feels overly possesive and wished I'd just game with her (women eh). She gets disappointed when I'm offline for long periods.

    There's more but I'll spare you the mush.

    Thing is, she has a partner for 7 years and there is no way I want to be on the receiving end of his knuckles! I don't know what her long term plans are - I don't think she knows either. If she's looking for a way out of her relationship she can find another guy for that. We've met in real life once before (she's attractive - no pics ) and we live maybe 2 hours apart but I'm not interested. My life is already complicated.

    I like her a lot but right up until now she was just a gamer chick. It's also impossible to hear someone say all those things about you and not feel, and give, some of that affection back. I'm 99% sure all this will pass but our friendship is in that "weird" zone at the moment. I'm happy to be there but I'd like to keep it all in perspective.

    Damn it. She ruined everything.

    Next time someone says "If I tell you, you'll freak out." I'm going to say "Okay then - I gotta go!"

    I want it back the way it was - Timeshifter - wind back the clock please!
    She said "you'd freak out"?
    I'd get a piece of her hair and test that she has two X Chromosomes just to make sure.
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    Develop the ability to discard people when they have outgrown their usefulness.
    I don't live here any more.

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    wossname = a polite crptcblade

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hack
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    Quote Originally Posted by chocoloco
    A real man wouldn't care about that.
    She might be after your money...

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    Quote Originally Posted by schoolbusdriver
    She might be after your money...
    A real man wouldn't care about that.

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    History has a way of repeating iteself...

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    There was a woman after my money once. So she slipped right through my fingers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crptcblade
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    Quote Originally Posted by mendhak
    There was a woman after my money once. So she slipped right through my fingers.
    Probably for the best - you wouldn't want to be short changed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sevenhalo
    Probably for the best - you wouldn't want to be short changed.
    Aye, I coined a few choice phrases for her when it was through.

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    Re: Girls are grief !

    I've been avoiding her for 2 nights hoping a bit of space will let us examine the situation a little better.

    We have mutual friends and I've heard she's been asking around for me. *sigh*

    I'm going to talk to her tonight about her partner and suggest to her she needs to resolve that firstly. Ideally, to patch things up and to get that back on track - that's where her real future lies.

    What's the bet I perform a classic guy foot-in-mouth maneuvor, say the wrong thing at the wrong time, completely stuff it up and hurt her and destroy the friendship in one gigantic effort.
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    You need a goat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mendhak
    Aye, I coined a few choice phrases for her when it was through.
    Good - she should be held accountable.

    @Gary - Before you do anything, are you sure you could actually be with a girl you know is willing to "trade-in?" Not to play the devil's advocate (although I really do enjoy doing it) - put yourself in his shoes. Imagine if she was talking to some other guy 3 years from now. And even if you say "yes, I am ok with this;" would you be able to trust her knowing what she's doing to this guy?

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    I don't want to be with her at all. Hence the problem. The affection is 90% one-sided.

    I want a gamer chick and she wants more.

    Her future is with her partner - not me. Wish me luck eh.
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    Re: Girls are grief !

    Quote Originally Posted by Gary Campbell
    I want a gamer chick and she wants more.
    You cannot have a gamer chick.

    Chicks are greedy.

    Go get yourself a gamer lass.

    Or a gamer robot dressed as a chick. It'll even say "Master what is your command."
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