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You just met a girl and have been seeing her almost everyday for a short time. Perhaps a month or two. Is it time to pull back?
Im just wondering because sometimes I hear people say "well if the other person knows that you would never leave them then they know they have the upper hand and perhaps might use that to their advantage" but at the same time if I know my girlfriend would never leave me I don't think I would take advantage of the situation.
Do you enjoy spending time with her? If yes and she feels the same, then whats the big deal? To that though, it also shouldn't be a big deal for you or her to spend a night with the boys/girls. When it starts getting possesive, its time to leave the garbage.
Before you are in a relationship, if a woman sees that she has the upper hand, a lot of them will take advantage of you. So you shouldn't let that happen.
Yes I enjoy spending time with her and she enjoys spending time with me but I constantly feel a need to pull back becasue it's the only thing I can think of that might make her want to be with me more. She works in a deli has tons of guy friends from there and also knows tons of guys in bands bacause she used to work as a promoter. So when I hear her cell phone ring for the tenth time that day or her talking to some band guy at the local bar I feel that she already has an inherent advantage.
Thats my mindset also.Quote:
Posted by baja_yu
Before you are in a relationship, if a woman sees that she has the upper hand, a lot of them will take advantage of you. So you shouldn't let that happen.
In that case you're just being a tipical guy (ass). So if you don't feel threatend, and you don't feel that she is cheating on you, and you don't feel that she is using those friendships to make you feel bad, everything is ok, and you are being an ass. :D
You argeed so you too are an ass. :lol:
Is it me or a post with the word "ass" and a picture of Jesus just seems wrong?
If you're happy what difference does it make?Quote:
Originally Posted by Dilenger4
:ehh: Dunno.Quote:
Posted by MartinLiss
If you're happy what difference does it make?
I don't see why it is wrong. The word 'ass' has a lot of definitions (check here for some of them: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=define%3Aass).Quote:
Originally Posted by Neoharuo
What I had in mind was "Ass: a pompous fool".
Also, as I remember Jesus came to Jerusalem riding an ass (Ass: hardy and sure-footed animal smaller and with longer ears than the horse)
And if you thought that by 'ass' I meant: "buttocks: the fleshy part of the human body that you sit on; "he deserves a good kick in the butt"; "are you going to sit on your fanny and do nothing?""; then again I cant see what the problem is. Jesus had one too if I'm not mistaking.
And yes, I agreed so I am an ass too (a pompous fool). I too sometimes get jelous in a situation like that.
Its hard not to be an ass when it comes to girls.
They either
a) Think its adorable
Or
b) Hate it
Find out which fast and then adjust your strategy accordingly...
Then again if you find out, there might not be time to adjust.
New plan:
Don't be an ass.
My plan has been not to be an ass and it seems to be working. When her cell phone rings and she is in the other room and she tells me to answer it I say "Oh you wanted me to answer it?" Cause I don't want to look like im trying to see who calls her every five seconds. :lol: Or when one of her guy friends calls her and says he wants to hang out I say yeah you should hang out with him. The response I get is usually "Id rather be with you". :D
Ok, so that is your front. So what do you do behind her back? Go through her purse? Check the call lists in her phone? Follow her secretly when she goes out with her buy firends? :D
Nope none of that. When she's not home I just raid her panty drawer. :D
:lol: Did you see Pablo Francisco's part on jelous guys? "You follow your girlfriend to the bathroom: What's going on? Is there an orgy in there?" :D
You used the word "advantage" twice or more in this thread and I somewhat disagree with that. I don't think you should view it as a game. If you both like each other then fine, see how things go. If she is using those guys to make you jealous (at any point) then I would get out of the relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dilenger4
I started dating a girl who I have liked for a long time and we have been going out about a month. We spend almost every minute we can together and I am happy with things. Unless my grades start dropping a lot, then I will keep spending time with her whenever I can or mabe until we get out of that "new couple phase." I never considered hanging out with her all the time as giving her an "advantage" but then again she doesn't hang out with other guys often (as part of her job).
Its pretty simple actually. If you feelQuote:
Originally Posted by Dilenger4
a) threatened by her friends (pull out)
b) used by her (pull out).
Thats my two cents. :-) :wave:
Marry her immediately. You have a 50/50 chance of being happy!
EDIT: WOW, my subconscious was screaming out! Excuse the error. Best of luck
division by zero causes error :)Quote:
Originally Posted by dglienna
You know my stance on things.
Rock + skull + trunk of car = joy of joys.
:afrog:
Here is my tip.
I hate girls that plays games. If they pull the 3 days rules, or play hard to get and things like that, then I ditch them as soon as possible so I don't have to use a peny on them. The best relationships I have had have always been with girls that doesn't play games. Harder to find, but nicer to have. So I guess you can do a derivation calculaten and find out what I feel about this..:)
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Oops. :)
I am with you on that mate. :thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by NoteMe
Club her over the head. Repeatedly if she's too much trouble. Works every time :afrog:
Eat her spleen.
Remember not to leave any evidence behind. I came "this" close to losing everything over a chunk on bone. :)
I start with the best part...the neck :)Quote:
Originally Posted by visualAd
Good tip Note :thumb:Quote:
Originally Posted by NoteMe
:eek2:
When a girl asks for money all the time, or asks you to buy her stuff in almost every store you goto, leave this girl immediately. She obviously would be taking advantage of you. However if she feels horrible that you do so many nice things for her, then you just hit yourself a jackpot.
The latter in my case.Quote:
Posted by Jacob Roman
When a girl asks for money all the time, or asks you to buy her stuff in almost every store you goto, leave this girl immediately. She obviously would be taking advantage of you. However if she feels horrible that you do so many nice things for her, then you just hit yourself a jackpot.
The end of July (when we met) I gave her $700 so she wouldn't get kicked out of her apt. Went out to a local bar about three times and dropped maybe $70 on average (each time) for admission and drinks. Probably spent about $100 a week on take-out chinese and beer to hang at her apt. Gave her my dvd player which cost me $30 at Sears. Dropped off another $350 last week where she works for her rent. Took her to buy curtains and rods for her living room, kids bedroom and kitchen. That cost me about $130. Moved her from the 1st floor to the third floor last week (cause the apt rooms were about 2' wider and it's quiter up there). I had to carry up two wood and stone topped end tables and a living room table of the same material. Her air conditioner, computer monitor, tower and computer table, and some boxes. Then lets not talk about the gas Ive burned since July visiting her. Her apts only about ten miles away but gas is expensive.
Oh yeah been to the movies once. Hey popcorns not cheap!
let me be the first to say
"Dang"
That's a lot of work.
Tip #1) Never pay for a girls rent, unless living with them. I must have paid for my ex girlfriends rent a dozen times cause she was too irresponsible to get herself a job. And I wasn't even living with her.Quote:
Originally Posted by Dillinger4
Sounds like he's paying her rent so she DOESN'T live with him :)
:lol:Quote:
Posted by dglienna
Sounds like he's paying her rent so she DOESN'T live with him :)
What kind of self-respecting girl would demand rent money from her boy-friend? I guess in your part of the world, there are plenty of those.
So...what are you saying here.......that you're a slow learner? :confused: :confused: :bigyello:Quote:
Originally Posted by Jacob Roman
I did it cause I loved her, cared about her, and didn't want her getting kicked out. But after she screwed me over, I learned the hardway that she took advantage of me.
Most of the times it's because I guy loves a girl, but doesn't realize that she is just miliking him for cash :D
Yup, guys are usually slow on the uptake.