OLE container to icon display

I am trying to place (embed) a file from an OLE container into an open file, that is like pasting the file, say, an Excel file into a Word document and have it appear as an Excel icon in the doc. I can "create object" and put in the OLE container control button but I can't get it out.
I would prefer to just click the button and have it automatically insert onto the doc. but pasting would work also.
Example code would be helpful.......I'll prolly be a newbie forever.

Thanks in advance.