What is the WndProc-message for a listviewitem getting selected??

Hi!

I'm really going nuts on this:

How do I prevent a listview from selecting an item after user click AT ALL.

I mean, I know that it is possoble to override the Sub OnSelectedIndexChanged, make something like Me.SelectedItems.Clear() and be done with it.

BUT. If I want to change the background color of the selected item, then I need to de-select the Item first in the Sub OnSelectedIndexChanged and then set the backgroundcolor of that item. Because if I don't de-select the item then the color stays the default selection-color.
And this causes an item first being selected, then being de-selected at once and thus the listviewitems flicker which I find utterly annoying.

So I need to cancel the message that makes the listview consider an item as selected and handle this whole selection stuff all by myself.

But which one is it??

I tried something like LVN_ITEMCHANGED or LVN_ITEMACTIVATE but none worked...

Can anyone help me?