Enhanced styles in toolbars

Does anyone have tips on customising the style of toolbars in addition to changing the APPEARANCE property. Can it be done with the .NET toolbar control, or does anyone know of any 3rd party toolbar controls?

What I'm particularly looking for is...

1. Adding images to drop down button - can images be added to a contextmenu control?
2. Changing the appearance of buttons similar to the toolbar interface in the .NET development environment - i.e. as you hover the cursor over the button, changing the appearance of the button - background colour and border style

I could solve 2 by creating a usercontrol and a picturebox control, but I'm just looking for a lazy man's way first.